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April 2009 
And so....
Posted on Nov 14th, 2007
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Cre8beauty
Cre8beauty
I've never been one to get angry. I can count on my fingers the times that I have been angry---really angry. i get frustrated. disillusioned. sad. hopeless. but generally, i don't get angry.
this year, i have felt more anger than i have ever felt before. i'm not sure how to feel about this. it doesn't make me more angry. i feel a little regret. anger seems like the one emotion that's not permissable. and if it is, then definately actions out of anger aren't permissable.
it's pretty simple to feel compassion for those who are sad, frustrated, hopeless. our hearts go out to those who do. but anger is seperate. an emotion that is different from any other. it doesn't prompt compassion quite as easily as it does judgement----if not anger (toward the angry).
for me, i'm finding out that anger is consuming. i haven't yet figured out how to control it completely. i swore in the hall at school after the veteran's day assembly. the disrespect and inappropriate actions of my students prompted this. but i allowed it, without meaning to.
is this normal? it's certainly not something i consider to be right.
i'd like to not acknowledge anger as real, but.....
and so....
i'd like to hear from you. maybe our anger can bring us together instead of isolate. maybe compassion for the angry can become more common...
this year, i have felt more anger than i have ever felt before. i'm not sure how to feel about this. it doesn't make me more angry. i feel a little regret. anger seems like the one emotion that's not permissable. and if it is, then definately actions out of anger aren't permissable.
it's pretty simple to feel compassion for those who are sad, frustrated, hopeless. our hearts go out to those who do. but anger is seperate. an emotion that is different from any other. it doesn't prompt compassion quite as easily as it does judgement----if not anger (toward the angry).
for me, i'm finding out that anger is consuming. i haven't yet figured out how to control it completely. i swore in the hall at school after the veteran's day assembly. the disrespect and inappropriate actions of my students prompted this. but i allowed it, without meaning to.
is this normal? it's certainly not something i consider to be right.
i'd like to not acknowledge anger as real, but.....
and so....
i'd like to hear from you. maybe our anger can bring us together instead of isolate. maybe compassion for the angry can become more common...
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Hi Keri,
I saw your blog and wanted to respond.
I know exactly what you mean. This year in particular has been a time of great change for me. Getting rejected from tons of agents, moving into a new line of work, and more have all led to feelings of anger and failure. Especially this past week.
I think this is human nature, though, to have these feelings; especially when we’re confronted with great adversity. I also believe we can overcome these feelings. It takes time for me to work through the challenges, though, and I’ve learned why my spirituality is such an important part of my life.
Have you ever taken up yoga, meditation, breathing exercises, or positive affirmations? Coming together and being compassionate on this topic is a wonderful idea to explore here. Curious to know what helps you and if you have any suggestions that might help me as well.
Blessings,
L.
anger is a common emotion. It can turn into a positive thing if you watch it…learn from it, and blossom with its energy…it can be destuctive too if you feed it negatively and let it grow wild.
I am reminded of Blake's poem: A Poison Tree
I was angry with my friend:
I told my wrath, my wrath did end.
I was angry with my foe:
I told it not, my wrath did grow.
And I watered it in fears
Night and morning with my tears,
And I sunned it with smiles
And with soft deceitful wiles.
And it grew both day and night,
Till it bore an apple bright,
And my foe beheld it shine,
And he knew that it was mine -
And into my garden stole
When the night had veiled the pole;
In the morning, glad, I see
My foe outstretched beneath the tree.
I would have to agree with you Keri that anger is a … shunned emotion in our society. It is somehow seen and regarded as being somehow wrong.
In my humble opinion, this view is hurting us all greatly. If you are angry, let it out. Otherwise it can fester, and grow, and then you will not be able to control how or when it releases itself. I dont mean you should get in someone's face and let em have it. But certainly, somehow, in some way, somewhere, even some other place and some other time, by yourself even, let it out. Deal with it. But thats just me.
I also see how this year has been a huge shift for myself, and so many people around me. And it continues to be. These times can be somewhat difficult, and have been for me. But these times are also a great opportunity to grow into what we truly are. Change is for the better. Some words I LOVE that I heard from Abraham-Hicks: You never get it done and you never get it wrong.
Another thing they said that I've tried out in my own personal experience is working with the emotional scale. This is of such profound value in my experience of my own life that I had to share it. If I am moving into anger from frustration or even happiness or joy, that for me is moving down the emotional scale, and that is ultimately destructive. BUT, if you are already lower on the emotional scale, lets say in depression, and then you move up into anger, well then I found myself to be taking back bits of my power by finally giving a damn about myself.
I also found I had to make friends will all parts of myself, even my darker aspects. Because I tried everything else, and that often made things worse. But getting friendly with those dark parts of me and allowing them to just be, gave me a freedom. Gradually. What you resist, persists right?
Perhaps something in my experience can help another. That would be wonderful. Either way, it is nice to share in this way :) I hope to hear more about this topic from everyone!
Funny that you suggest Yoga and meditation because I have been praciting yoga for years, but I am currently completing a 200 hour yoga teacher certification program. I'm meditating more and doing more yoga than I ever have before. Right now we're working on the 2nd chakra, which is about the right to feel. And I don't feel anger often—part of me wonders if it's because I feel guilt after every time I do. I guess, as Maze said, I'm observing this recent anger outburst so I can learn from it. Maybe the next step comes from Z's experience. I have yet to try to not repel it.
To find balance in yogasana, one must find strength and focus—but not be too attached to the outcome. So….to find balance in emotional states, I must find my anger through accepting and embracing the shadow, while focusing on light?
this seems to initiate an inner peace…lately. (for the last several days.)
I wish everyone was as responsible as you with your anger. =)
I get angry too. Without anger there is no change. Without anger, there is no fire. Perhaps, as you have suppressed this emotion for so long, your soul and your body is telling you to be angry to heal. That is ok. BE ANGRY!
Dont fear it. Because anger is one of those things that doesnt last if you let it strike against the grain and ignite….then it burns out all the quicker.
I think anger, when justified, is the biggest instigator and catylist of change.
it makes you aware of something your mind perhaps is not quite ready to justify as wrong.
Perhaps there is even a time to be angry in Yoga? As you say you have been doing Yoga for many years, could that not be what is stirring the anger out of you, saying “this anger has been kept in your body too long, you must allow it out to continue healing”
I know you fear anger because you have experienced someone angry who did not control their actions nor have a concern for your welfare, and that made you think “if this person cares about me, and can hurt me when they are angry, then I can hurt someone I care about when I am angry, and I never want to hurt anyone I care about”. I know because I have experienced that same thing.
That is where the mind comes in to play. Because anger, when focused at a target that is deserving, and appropriate, can have the counter effect of protecting those you care most about, including yourself.
I love even your anger, and hope you are well.
Namaste.